Thanks Kerry for acknowledging

You're quite welcome, Dave. A few lines from a Tennyson poem. The Charge of the Light Brigade, came to mind.
“Forward, the Light Brigade!”
Was there a man dismayed?
Not though the soldier knew
Someone had blundered.
Theirs not to make reply,
Theirs not to reason why,
Theirs but to do and die.
Into the valley of Death
Rode the six hundred."Why's" are not real things anyway. You can't touch them, hear them, taste them, etc. Why's exist in our imagination. Our minds can start spinning when we start trying to imagine what plans others have for what they do. We can imagine evil where none exists.
I do relate this to the temptation of Eve. She could look around the Garden. It was all good. Why suspect God didn't want her and Adam to eat of the forbidden fruit because He didn't want them to be like Him? She was imagining evil in God where none existed.
Did God have a good motive for putting that tree there and telling them not to eat of it? I believe He did. Eve's first mistake then was "imagining" something in the Mind of God which wasn't true. Then she acted on her suspicion.
I say God had a good motive for putting that tree there. Adam was supposed to "cleave" to Eve and hadn't done it yet. Had the two become one, they would have been able to see the world from each other's perspective. And being neither male nor female but both, they would have become more like God. Remember God created them in "His" image, both male and female. Had they become one as God intended and commanded, it would have been safe for them to eat of the "forbidden" fruit. Indeed they would have been told to eat of it.
Your friend seems to be like many others in this world who try to figure out things too much. The question should not be "Why did this happen to me" but rather "What do I want to do with this situation.'
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2JzHvRgyMg