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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Nancy's Corner
« on: September 09, 2023, 09:58:51 pm »
https://youtu.be/W8cJQMU9Q-U?si=TRCfZQmoHkgfFP5T

Hey,everyone!

Will try to catch up, soon.  But, thought I'd leave you with this song for now.  Hadn't heard it in awhile, but I always loved it.  Sending hugs ...

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Rest awhile in our Lounge / Re: Happy Posting
« on: August 20, 2023, 01:31:31 pm »
Quote from: Dave on August 17, 2023, 08:07:41 pm

So Mike we pray one for another that we may get  healed, Blessings, a quick word to all, don't go to the bathroom and avoid very hot meals.Lol.

Noted. ;)

As I said earlier, we all seem to be injuring ourselves one way or another.  May God help us with all our injuries, aches, and pains. 

We are in the midst of a week-long 100 degree heat wave, here.  With humidity.  Early morning is the only time I can comfortably get anything done outdoors, so ... off I go.  Light and peace to all you gentle souls!♡

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Mike's Corner
« on: August 17, 2023, 12:57:30 am »
Oh no!  Mike, please do take care and get well.  Sorry to hear about your fall.  We're all waiting to hear from you! 

Seems we all keep injuring ourselves one way or another ... 

Oh to be like Benjamin Button and turn the clock around and get younger 'stead of older. ;) 

Sending love and hugs!xxoo

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Rest awhile in our Lounge / Re: Happy Posting
« on: August 17, 2023, 12:34:24 am »
Quote from: Dave on August 11, 2023, 10:40:14 pm
And most are very gracious, but I was still in the- 'if I dropped something, I would still "kick with my foot and not bend down" mode, am I comfortable around them, my answer is no.
  Im never very comfortable with things I cannot wrap my head around.

Thanks, Dave, for your response.  The part above got a laugh out of me.  Gay guys, tho, are like the rest of us and have certain "types" they like, so you might be safe. Maybe, lol! I know many people are still uncomfortable thinking too deeply about homosexuality, I suppose, because, it's true, being "straight" we can't wrap our heads around it. Yet, in the workplace, all people should be evaluated on how well they do their job. We were sad to lose good nurses.  And,"shaming", as Pat said, rarely has any positive benefit at all. If people could have just kept their mind on the care needs of the residents, things might have gone smoothly.  Honestly, tho, that community is steeped in gossip and everyone seems to (think they) know everything about everyone.  Amazing all the drama, especially in the cafeteria, I hear.  And this nursing home has Happy Hour once a week.  With alcohol. Kevin claims it's a riot.  I dunno ...


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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Nancy's Corner
« on: August 11, 2023, 05:48:31 pm »
We did go see the 4 baby goats.  They were adorable, of course, but there were 3 males and only 1 female.  We also discovered they are more expensive than we thought.  So now, Adam wonders if we should search for fancier colors and try to raise them for profit. :o  I'd rather stick to the original plan and just have a couple for pets.  They need a good enclosure with "gyms" for play and climbing.  Feed.  The occasional hoof trimming.  I think just a couple females might be fun.  I'm not ready to be a goat herder. :D

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Rest awhile in our Lounge / Re: Happy Posting
« on: August 11, 2023, 05:34:50 pm »
Thanks, Pat and Rita, for your replies.  "Live and let live" could solve a lot of conflict, as long as no one is being harmed, I do agree.  The judgemental treatment results in nothing but anti-Christian sentiment, I'm afraid.  Rita, I've noticed the people with dementia do seem to just say whatever pops into their heads, kinda like how drinking makes people less inhibited.  Some come off very mean, even, while others are consistently sweet, even if confused.  And, yep, Kevin has told me the black girls who fill in on weekends often get treated badly, too.

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Rest awhile in our Lounge / Re: Happy Posting
« on: August 10, 2023, 08:39:49 pm »
About the gay guys:

At the nursing home, good help is difficult to find and difficult to keep.  Kevin's day can make or break, depending on who is caring for him.

Riley and Randy are a gay couple that worked briefly at the home.  They had the piercings, a plethora of tatooes, and maybe, beneath the scrubs, they dressed a bit unconventionally, but ... I never saw them NOT working, I did see them on their knees in front of residents in wheelchairs, speaking eye to eye, at their level in gentle, patient tones.  They treated Kevin very well and even fed him on occasion.  They were some of the best nurses seen over the past year.

Yet, Riley and Randy were run out of their jobs by both residents and staff who thought it their God-given duty to inform them that they were sinners, abominations, queers ... and these people hurled insults at them and some even refused their care. 

So, Kevin lost both friends and some of his best caregivers.

I just ask, how would Jesus treat Randy and Riley?  Would He show them love and compassion?  Would He shun them?  Would He praise them for their own work ethic and compassion toward the residents? Would He speak kindly, respectfully?  Would He beat them down or draw them in? 

I fear too many times Christians are poor representatives of Christ.  In their own sense of righteousness, they prevent the children from ever approaching the Father.  They take judgement into their own hands and condemn. 

What actually IS our "duty" toward people such as Randy and Riley?

I know this is a deep topic, but maybe the answer is simple.

Love one another.

I believe we are called to love.  I don't believe we have the power to condemn.  I believe we need to first consider our selves and we need, sometimes, to trust God.

I didn't care about their sexuality.  I cared about their nursing skills.  They were among the best, yet we lost them to this prejudice of sorts.

Any thoughts? I find it troubling.


 


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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Nancy's Corner
« on: August 10, 2023, 07:41:17 pm »
Quote from: Dave on August 10, 2023, 04:14:43 pm
Nancy a very descriptive epistle of life in a garden after the "fall"

    "What did the bald man say, when he received a comb for a present?
Thanks; I'll never part with it :D "

We are only smoking the odd day now but there are still a lot of fires about and as the old song says; 'smoke does get in your eyes', yesterday was really bad.
We have both my grand daughters dogs with us today today, fortunately they are both small but very energetic which isn't good, when ones 'get up and go' seems to have gone ;)

Well, time to get my buns in gear, coffee is over, my car's in getting fixed which will render me both armless and legless I;m sure, but something to look forward too I suppose but thanks Nancy for your posts, praying that the God who supplies All our needs will throw in a few extra's for you. Dave.

Thank you, Dave.  I'm enjoying your wit and humor! :D   Laughter is good medicine; which reminds me, I once again forgot my blood pressure medicine!  Oops.

Little dogs have big energy, is true.  I have trouble walking my big dogs on a leash.  Seems they became stronger than me at some point, even though they're like 117 in people-years.

All the fires are troubling.  We've even had residual smoke here in Nebraska.

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Helen's Corner
« on: August 10, 2023, 07:23:42 pm »
Quote from: Dave on August 10, 2023, 03:29:08 pm
I remember the Lord showing me, way back when one morning; that HE was the resurrection and the life and it blew me away that HE wasn't dead, what happened to those morning revelations'?

Now it's where did I leave my socks, and the 'revelation' now is, can I get them on!!!!!! ;)

I was just musing on the revelation that after I've been sitting, I can't move for a long, embarrassing moment when I stand back up, because this incredible stiffness seizes my body and I'm, perhaps, like a pillar of salt?  If I keep moving, I do well, but where did gracefulness and fluidity go? 

Adam is only 46.  I try to hide such things from him, lol, but how many excuses can I give for just standing there with a blank look on my face when he says, "Come on"?!  Granted, his elbows and one shoulder often give him trouble from hauling heavy beams and such, but ... no matter how many people THINK he and I are matched in age, my body likes to laugh at that little notion.  We can try to hide it, but the years have their say!

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Helen's Corner
« on: August 10, 2023, 07:04:32 pm »
Quote from: Helen on August 10, 2023, 03:04:22 pm
Blessings Nancy …💞



I’m still musing on Lazareth, Martha and Mary …

“ "When he had heard therefore that he was sick, he abode two days still in the same place where he was."


What a startling "therefore"! He abstained from going, not because He did not love them, but because He did love them. His love alone kept Him back from hasting at once to the dear and stricken home. Anything less than infinite love must have rushed instantly to the relief of those loved and troubled hearts, to stay their grief and to have the luxury of wiping and stanching their tears and causing sorrow and sighing to flee away. Divine love could alone hold back the impetuosity of the Savior's tender-heartedness until the Angel of Pain had done her work.
Who can estimate how much we owe to suffering and pain? But for them we should have little scope for many of the chief virtues of the Christian life. Where were faith, without trial to test it; or patience, with nothing to bear; or experience, without tribulation to develop it?

--Selected—

Helen, That bible story is truly amazing.  Everyone thought Jesus had failed his friends.   But Jesus was biding His time to teach them the life-giving power of God.  Time may seem to defeat us, but Jesus knew how to leave an everlasting mark on the world in 33 short years of "life" as we know it.

I wonder sometimes about Lazarus:  Did he "die" a second time, old and tired and grey?  Or, already resurrected from death, was he whisked away to heaven at some point?  Might he still walk among us?   Just how much "life" was given to Lazarus when Jesus finally came to them?

Are there any clues anyone has heard of?  Perhaps in the Apocrypha?

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Pat's Corner
« on: August 10, 2023, 06:43:15 pm »
Quote from: Helen on August 10, 2023, 02:59:07 pm
Amen Pat!
We just had our 62nd anniversary last weekend….it’s so strange , only a ‘couple of years ago ‘ we were just young and energetic things ….Dave turns 86 this year!
It’s been a good ride ….❤️

62 years!  Congrats to you and Dave, too!

Life is funny.  You live through stages that, at the time, you think will never end.  But the only thing certain actually IS change.  Not to be inappropriate, but I think of Kevin and I making love. It was something beautiful in our life. When was the "last time"?  Did we know the last time was the last time?  How do such monumental parts of our life fade away without us realizing a door is closing, never to be opened again? 

I guess my point in this is that I've learned everything changes, things you take so for granted pass away, EVERYTHING is always passing.  We really do need to cherish the people and the day to day life and the good and the beautiful and the love that remains.  Nothing is certain.  We make our plans, but they can easily be lost.  Always say your 'I love you's'  and your 'I'm sorry's' cuz we just never know. Don't go to bed angry, and kiss your love goodbye EVERY time you part.

Thank God we have every hope in Christ, because in this world, "this, too, shall pass" applies to the good as well as the bad.

But, there is "faith, hope, and love ..."

There's a country song that expresses this well.  Not sure if anyone here enjoys country, but I'll post it, because it's message needs hearing.  (I know I'm preaching to the choir.😉  Humor me, haha!)

https://youtu.be/W4xNuO4T3w0

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Mike's Corner
« on: August 10, 2023, 06:14:19 pm »
Quote from: Mike Waters on August 09, 2023, 11:42:35 pm
In the words of the song
"What a diff'rence a day makes.
Only 24 hours"

Only yesterday I was bemoaning the lack of posts, and now we have an unbelievably uplifting (and enlightening) load of posts from Dave, Pat, and Nancy.
God Bless you all for lifting the spirits of a lonely old man.

God bless you!  And thank you for this forum.  Membership is small, but that allows an intimacy that is quite nice.

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Pat's Corner
« on: August 10, 2023, 06:10:10 pm »
Quote from: Pat on August 09, 2023, 10:25:26 pm
Hi Nancy, I'm glad in my heart that you have been blessed with good men to care for you.  My man is now 84 and very frail but I know he still loves me after more than 50 years together.

50 years together is almost a miracle today.  We're all vulnerable to loss of health and strength.  It truly has been difficult watching Kevin, who was once big and tall and stronger than most men, succumb to this awful disease that has robbed him of almost everything.  In my heart, I see him as he was, the boy I knew some 45 years ago, with an Orange Crush tee-shirt, high top basketball shoes, and unruly hair.  People tend to underestimate his mental capacities because he is so severely disabled, but his mind is 100% and his memory is amazing.  I know the real Kevin.  He's not the broken body in that bed.

I love to see photos of older people when they were young and strong.  I think that's how we will appear in heaven.  Restored, made new.  Probably glorified and enhanced and perfected.  As Jesus said, we will be like the angels.  Angels, I'm sure, are magnificent.  Congrats on a lifetime love and partner and friend!       

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Rest awhile in our Lounge / Re: Happy Posting
« on: August 10, 2023, 05:44:37 pm »
A favorite song.  The lyrics are both sad and uplifting.  The Promise is on our horizons, no matter how dark the day. 

"Take heart."

"Be of good courage."

And the angels say, "Fear not!"

https://youtu.be/le-TG4sRRiQ

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Members' Corners and forum updates / Re: Nancy's Corner
« on: August 09, 2023, 09:26:39 pm »
How does time escape us?  Here it is, 3 pm.  Already!  I have green beans and apples to pick, laundry to fold, dishes to wash, a raccoon to clean up after, and too many tasks to name ahead of me.  On bad knees with a sore back.  Kevin may need meal replacement (BAD meals at the Home), and Adam will arrive home soon to find me quite unproductive.  I must run and make an effort!  Off I go!

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